Musings × 03

It is such a cliché, isn’t it?
To reflect back right at the very end of each year?
To ponder over the decisions that you took and the ones you just didn’t have the courage to?
And yet we do it. Consciously and sometimes our mind just wanders off while we drink coffee or maybe during a house party with friends and family. Our mind is a funny little thing, it can make one lonely even amidst a sea of people. And it can make you feel like the most famous person in the world while sipping tea from a stall with two of your dearest friends who’ve known you for as long as you’ve known yourself.

“What have you learnt this year?”
“What has this year taught you?”

Even the most generic questions get to you sometimes, you know?
When you know the answer is going to be the most obvious one. A few adjectives here and there. A nice quote from a book or maybe a fool typing out a whole paragraph and yet not being able to pen down the reality.

Well, how do you encapsulate a whole year into a few sentences? And even if you do, can they really reflect all those hours? Those minutes when it just felt like time stopped? That this was it? Nothing would ever be the same?
Can that be articulated? Is it quantifiable?
I don’t know. And hence I would probably go the same way as everyone else.

Someone may find that I’m being too mediocre with my approach but I think for a change, I’d like to be involved with mediocrity. Atleast I’d feel like I’m part of this world again.
We’ve all experienced what disconnection is.
So here goes;

  1. No matter what, life will go on.
  2. Whatever/whoever you think is good/best for you might actually be the opposite.
  3. Forgiving someone is hard. It requires a lot of courage to forgive and give back their places.
  4. Owning up to your mistakes may take a long time but you will know when it is time to do so.
  5. Forgive yourself for whatever you have done. Try not to do the same again.
  6. There is no alternative to trust. It is the basis of every human relationship.
  7. The closest ones hurt you the most.
  8. To put blame is easy. To maintain integrity for those who’ve lost their own is the true mark of commitment.
  9. No matter what, life finds a way to go on. Whatever dies shall be restored.
  10. One unexpected person can light up your life in the most unexpected way.
  11. We’re all hurting and healing; being considerate and mature is being strong.
  12. Not everyone has the strength/courage to give up who/what they love.
  13. Pathways open up in an instance and then close up even faster. Like getting into a globally top ranked university and ultimately giving it up due to constraints.
  14. Even the ones who know you can misunderstand you based on other’s opinions. You can’t make everyone understand everything.
  15. Those who are meant to stay, will stay.
    What is meant to happen, will happen.

Hope the coming year brings some joy into our lives. Hope we can talk more about issues and shout less about trivialities. Hope the world becomes a better place. Hope we become better human beings.

©theblackcurse via the year that changed everything